danceswithfaeriesunderthemoon:
TW: SLUT SHAMING.
GIRLS THAT NEED TO LEARN TO RESPECT THEMSELVES. REBLOG IF U AGREE!
Oh shut the fuck up.
HOW MANY PEOPLE A WOMAN HAS SEX WITH IS NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS, HOW OTHER WOMEN DECIDE TO DRESS IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
FUCKING HELL SAKJDHKJHGDKJSBGFYUIDKJGH.
::Clears throat and quietly steps onto pedestal::
A womans worth has NOTHING to do with how many people she has slept with. A womans respect for herself is NOT AT ALL directly linked with how many people she has slept with.
You know what? Women DO need to learn some respect. We need to learn some respect for each other. We need to learn not to invalidate a woman because shes slept with a number of people we find to be negative. It doesnt matter. Why? Because she isnt you. If you want to save yourself..thats awesome! Go for it! But it makes you no more valid, beautiful, or respected than a woman who has slept with 20 or more people.
Stop defining a womans worth based on how many people she has sex with.
STOP IT!
Often times when I am trying to explain to an individual why they should not wear tribal headdresses, or why they should not say things like “I think I was a gypsy in a past life, because I love to travel!” Or, when they post pictures of themselves with a crystal ball, or wearing a skimpy “gypsy” or “Native” Halloween costume….I am often met with the response that there is nothing wrong with admiring and incorporating other cultures traditions, dress, etc into our wardrobes, lives, pictures, etc.
That is true. There isnt. Cultural appropriation is not, in itself, inherently wrong. However, cultural MISappropriation is. A lot of people debate over the words “appropriation” and “misappropriation” so here, I am using appropriation to refer to the natural effects and outcome of living in multicultural societies, and the result of cultural exchange. I am using misappropriation to refer to the negative appropriation of a culture and their traditions by reinforcing negative or untrue stereotypes about said culture or tradition..whether by clothing, pictures, or whatever else.
This is what needs to be understood. Living in a multicultural society, a multicultural world..there will be cultural exchange and the result of that is appropriation ALL around the block. Not just whites appropriating non white cultures and traditions…but all cultures appropriating and borrowing from all different types of cultures and traditions. I admire MANY cultures and traditions, and oftentimes incorporate attire from cultures other than my own, into my own wardrobe.
However, I would not ever take a sacred, traditional item and devalue it by exploiting it, or devalue it by using it to reinforce negative and incorrect stereotypes about a people or culture. This is where the difference lies.
Many of you need to learn the meaning of the word “respect.” I am, many times, met with the response that, for example, the reason a young woman has taken a picture of herself in a field, wearing an extremely revealing, cheap halloween costume, with a crystal ball in her hands..is because she “loves and respects gypsy culture.”
No. Learn the definition of the word respect. Respect is not devaluing a people by depicting yourself in attire that reinforces negative and incorrect stereotypes about them. That is not respect.
